Today has been an endless and tiring day. Just as you sit down with your coffee, your child bursts into the room, clutching a toy and pleading, “Can we play?” You sigh and pause for a moment, remembering that playtime is the highlight of his day, and he wants to share it with you. How can you say no?
Understanding Children’s Communication Through Play
Our children, especially those who have experienced trauma, might encounter challenges in verbalizing their emotions and needs. Their limited vocabulary compounds their struggle to articulate emotions, making it hard for them to grasp concepts like discouragement or disappointment. Instead, they resort to one of their greatest strengths: engaging in play. For children with traumatic backgrounds, play becomes a vital means of expression.
How Play Helps Children Express Emotions
Through play, children can tap into their imagination and let go of unresolved emotions. Here are some ways children might communicate through play:
- Yelling at a doll: Expressing anger or frustration.
- Throwing a ball hard: Releasing pent-up energy or anger.
- Burying a precious object: Coping with loss or feelings of insecurity.
- Changing the rules of a game: Seeking control in a world where they often feel powerless.
- Controlling the moves of each player: Asserting dominance or seeking structure.
Giving children the freedom to play fosters creativity and imagination. It gives them a chance to explore and make sense of challenging feelings and situations in a secure environment. By immersing themselves in play, they can work through a tough day at school or a traumatic event.
Educational Benefits of Play
Learning through play benefits children of all ages, from toddlers to teens. It enhances hand-eye coordination, cognitive abilities, and curiosity. Play, as described by Trust-Based Relational Intervention (TBRI), acts as a means of communication that cultivates feelings of safety and trust. Engaging in play at your child’s level, or allowing them to play independently, promotes critical development in a fun, relaxed way.
Key Takeaway
Children may perceive play as a means of amusement, although its advantages are far-reaching. Playtime supports the expression and development of children. The next time your child asks to play, lean into that everyday moment. Embrace the endless joy that comes with their wild curiosity and boundless energy. You have a pivotal role in guiding them in developing healthy expression and communication. Play is how it starts.
“Let the children come to me. Don’t stop them! For the Kingdom of God belongs to those who are like these children.”
Application
Want to improve your ability to engage with your children through play?
Pile of Purpose equips you to foster a stronger connection with your children by engaging in quick games involving various action figures, dolls, toy cars, or stuffed animals.
Access Pile of Purpose now and add it to your Everyday Moments™ activity rotation.
